Women are constantly being told that it is the outcome which matters most – healthy baby, healthy mum – and the very idea of women having a positive birth experience is often belittled. I truly believe that a woman’s birth experience is fundamental to her wellbeing, yet this is too often overlooked, and the focus is on the “safe delivery” of a healthy baby. Even the word “delivery” implies that somebody else did all of the hard work! This is YOUR pregnancy and YOUR birth; nobody else but you can do this BUT you can surround yourself with people who believe in you and will support you without judgment. This isn’t about having a natural, drug-free birth or avoiding interventions at all costs. It’s about going into your birth with knowledge, confidence and control.